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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. Here are some ideas to get you started: Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t b…

Sour and suspicious

I have been married for five years. All this while, I was never really happy with my marriage although I do love my husband very much. We used to quarrel a lot because my husband cares for his own needs and happiness, and puts his friends as his main priority. He would tell me lies and neglect me just to be with them. I don’t think I could ever forget those lies because it involved a third party on two occasions. I know she was up to no good but my husband didn’t try to understand me and continued chatting with her every day on the net. He promised me he would never go beyond that. But after some arguments I found out he has called her on the phone to chat even though he says he treats her as a normal friend. I tried so hard all by myself to guard this marriage from troublesome third parties. Although it was in the past I still remember how he lied and how I relied on my own sixth sense to find out what was going on. Both girls pretended in front of me as if they didn’t keep in touch…

Learn to communicate better

"He who loves a quarrel loves sin; he who builds a high gate invites destruction." - Bible 
"Always speak the truth, since the smallest of lies discredits your words of love or respect." - Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, family and marriage counselor, received the following email. "We were traveling in the car on our way to a movie. My husband was quiet and smiling smugly. I said, 'What are you thinking?' He replied, 'I was just thinking how critical you are.' 
"My natural instinct was ... well, you know. But I thought, This is a goodwilled man. Maybe he means something else. So I asked, 'What does that mean, that I'm critical?' He replied, 'I mean our family couldn't exist without you. You are so critical to me.'"
Communication skills, or their absence, will make or break a marriage. 
David and Amy Olson, in their book "Empowering Couples: Building on Your Strengths," list five simple su…

Relationship Coaching or Counseling — Which?

Relationship Coaching or Counseling — Which? Couples go to counseling to improve their relationship - don't they? Well, not necessarily. Many couples enter counseling so consumed with anger at each other and with what is wrong with their relationship that positive change scarcely enters their minds. They have no vision of a better marriage and consequently no goals that could reorient them in a healing direction. Unfortunately, so compelling is the temptation to blame the other partner and so intense is the anger and hurt that many couples in counseling never move beyond a negative fixation on all that is wrong with their relationship. They have nowhere positive to go and consequently never get there. It take a well-trained and forceful couples counselor to insist, after a period of venting, that partners drop their negative focus and start creating a better future together. Unfortunately, counselors who do insist on a positive focus to the work sometimes discover that "getting …